What is more important to have when partnering with your horse, horse smarts or horse sense? Put another way, is it more important to have intelligence or trust? Perhaps both?
A "human" study was conducted by Amy Cuddy, psychologist at the Harvard Business School, on the topic of first impressions. She found that in human interactions, upon first impressions, people answer two primary questions:
* Can I trust this person?
* Can I respect this person's capabilities?
Cuddy found that 80% to 90% of the first impression is based on these two important traits. Interestingly, the research shows that trust is the most important factor. All too often, it seems there is a premium placed on the importance of competence, IQ or intelligence. Cuddy's research shows that in order for competence to matter, people must have a level of trust. In addition, if there is no trust, competence actually works against you.
What does this have to do...
I recently attended a church service with my family at our community church. We began a new series called #trending which tackles modern and often difficult and divisive issues such as politics, social media, immigration and race. The discussions attempt to provide perspective on how these issues are viewed within the Bible and how we can apply the understanding of our faith to these challenging issues.
The topic today was about politics, a most divisive topic in our culture today and a difficult topic to tackle in front of a few hundred people in the audience who most certainly have different personal views on politics. Rather than try and “convince” those in the audience which side is correct, the pastor began with what everyone in the audience felt was common ground, as Christians. In any negotiation, finding the common ground is a critical place to start.
Here are the 4 “Universal Points of Agreement” the pastor...
"For one to fly, one needs only to take the reins."
~ Melissa James
In the book, The Confidence Gap, by Russ Harris, he lays out a foundational concept to assist in our understanding of confidence.
The action of confidence comes before the feeling of confidence.
I often see people stuck in a state of unhappiness and unrest due to a lack of confidence. They are not reaching the levels of success with their horse because somewhere along the way, they lost confidence in their abilities.
“If only I felt more confident, I would be able to accomplish that better…”
“As soon as I get my confidence back, I will be able to do that again…”
"When I get my confidence back, I will get back on the horse again..."
Each of these statements makes the assumption that we need to...
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it."- Albert Einstein
What does the mind behind the theory of relativity have to do with you and your horse? Well, quite a bit actually.
If you are like me, there has been a moment or TEN where you found yourself “stuck” with your horse. A total communication breakdown! No matter what you do, your horse is looking at you like you are speaking a foreign language and is incredibly annoyed at the insistent little human at the end of the lead rope. The more you point, pull, push or cue, the deeper your horse’s feet get buried in the proverbial “concrete.” Ugh. In this moment, it’s easy and all too common for us horse owners to get frustrated and begin to rationalize as to why this is happening by pointing a finger towards our horse with words like, stubborn, lazy, headstrong, arrogant, or dense.
I want to suggest that you develop a new...
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