Which Wolf Will You Feed?

Uncategorized Nov 23, 2021

There is an old Cherokee legend that has always been one of my favorite reminders of the importance of mindset and its ability to shape our lives. This parable was told from a wise Cherokee elder to his grandson.

"We each have two wolves inside of us battling for dominance.
The dark wolf represents anger, greed, jealousy, regret, arrogance and superiority and ego.
The other is the white wolf, which represents all that is good. She is joy, #kindness#courage#compassion, love, hope, humility, generosity, gratitude and faith."
"The same fight is going on within you and everyone else," explained the wise elder.
"Which one will win?" asked the grandson curiously.

"Whichever one you feed," said the wise elder.

I love the power and simplicity of this parable. The interesting thing is our dark wolf is actually trying to protect us(in an awkward kind of way). The ego in you continually tries to convince you that you are not good enough, you are not ready for this or you don't have...

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The Power Of A Good Question

Uncategorized Nov 23, 2021

If you work in a sales or consulting capacity, at some point you have learned the importance of asking good questions.
When it comes to manifesting what you want in your life or career, the same concepts apply. The quality of your questions will determine the quality of your life.
Your brain is like a search engine and the questions you provide are like the search result. It will always give an answer to whatever questions you ask. Are you asking yourself empowering questions or self-defeating questions?

For example,
"Why do things never work out for me the way I want?"
"What if my client won't accept the new fee I am charging?"
"Why does this always happen to me?" ..... Garbage in, garbage out.

Instead, think about the outcome you desire and repurpose your question to be more empowering.
"What is it I really want and what steps can I take to move to closer to my desired outcome?
"What is the best way to articulate my value to my clients?"
"What skills or resources do I have at my disposal to...

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Good Vibrations

"I picking up good vibrations.... she's giving me excitations." - the Beach Boys(Good Vibrations)

The song "Good Vibrations" by The Beach Boys, albeit simplistic lyrically, had some hidden wisdom relating to the laws of life and success. Who knew?

As a former college athlete(Go UW Badgers!), it goes without saying that I enjoy sports. What has always drawn me to sports/games, beyond the thrill of competition is the fact that nearly every game has a specific set of rules, guidelines or strategies to follow in order to maximize your success. The more you comprehend the rules and develop a strategy, the more effectively you can apply the rules to your favor and the more success you will find in the game. 

My wife and I recently watched the Netflix series, Queen's Gambit. I was in awe of the level of strategic mastery displayed by the best chess players in the world. Beth Harmon, the main character, would obsessively rehearse complex chess strategies in her...

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The 3 Blessings of Failure

Uncategorized Apr 11, 2021

A year ago, I would have considered picking up my daughter from karate class just another parental obligation in the midst of another hectic week juggling work travel and family life. 

Today, one year into the pandemic, I couldn't be more grateful to be picking my daughter up from a "in person" karate class. It is small sign of life beginning to feel human again.   

When she got into the car, like most parents, my first question to her was "tell me about your failures today during class."   Huh? (what kind of parent asks that?)

She paused a brief moment and confidently commented that her instructor noticed she was struggling with a certain move.  "Awesome!" I replied.  "What are yo going to do with that feedback?" I replied.  "I'm going to work on this week and be ready for next week's practice, " she replied.  For me, that was a proud Dad moment. 

Most kids, heck, most adults,  might look cross-eyed if asked a question about...

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The Power of Decision

Uncategorized Mar 07, 2021

In the Mindset Success blog #2,  http://bit.ly/3v0eeom I shared some thoughts on the important role your belief system plays in determining the outcomes you create in your life. 

"Our beliefs determine our thoughts, which produce feelings/emotions which motivate actions which create the results. This can be a vicious cycle if the beliefs are not in alignment with what we truly want to create. It can be fantastically beautiful and effortless when they are in alignment."

So, if beliefs have the ability to determine our results, and limiting beliefs are preventing us from living the life we want to have, the $1M question then becomes, "How do I change my beliefs?" 

There is no shortage of material in the personal and professional development world that helps you realize there is a blockage or challenge keeping you from what you desire, but very little that helps create a lasting change or transformation.  If it...

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Climbing Your R.O.P.E. To Success?

Uncategorized Feb 23, 2021

Jim Rohn was one of the founding fathers of success mentoring. He was the King of motivational "one liners." What I have always appreciated about Mr. Rohn his emphasis on personal accountability. Jim preached that happiness is an "inside game." Too often, people look to external factors such as financial wealth and material items as a marker of success but Jim knew this was a temporary and fleeting effect. True success and happiness comes from the inside, out.  

"Success is not something you pursue. Success is something you attract by the person you become."  Jim Rohn. 

We live in a fast paced society. We are slowly becoming a society that is ever focused on external and instant gratification. People today seem to want to be paid the highest salaries and live the highest standard of living all while doing it "part time" while doing a binge watching marathon of their favorite Netflix...

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Good Vibrations

By Shawn M. Carlin

"I picking up good vibrations.... she's giving me excitations."

The song "Good Vibrations" by The Beach Boys, albeit simplistic lyrically, had some hidden wisdom relating to the laws of life and success. Who knew?

As a former college athlete(Go UW Badgers!), it goes without saying that I enjoy sports. What has always drawn me to sports/games, beyond the thrill of competition is the fact that nearly every game has a specific set of rules, guidelines or strategies to follow in order to maximize your success. The more you comprehend the rules and develop a strategy, the more effectively you can apply the rules to your favor and the more success you will find in the game. 

My wife and I recently watched the Netflix series, Queen's Gambit. I was in awe of the level of strategic mastery displayed by the best chess players in the world. Beth Harmon, the main character, would obsessively rehearse complex chess strategies in her head, in...

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Honor The Struggle

Uncategorized Feb 01, 2021

Honor the struggle.  A phrase I have heard before but didn't always appreciate until recently.  Life can be tough enough as it is, why would I embrace the struggles? 

Not only was 2020 a struggle in many ways, with the Covid-19 pandemic, but it is the New Year, and many of us have set new goals and aspirations for 2021, which can bring its own type excitement, but struggles and anxieties as well.  A new report from Strava suggests that people are most likely to ditch the New Year's resolution commitment as early as January 19th!  This fact only compounds the struggles many of us are already facing due to the challenges of the pandemic.  Allow me to try to put these challenges into perspective in hopes of being able to help you continue on with your resolutions and break through your goals for 2021.  

Change is hard.  In fact, anytime you set out to make real change in your life, initially, it can get down right ugly!  Setting new...

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Lombardi Knows Mindset

Being in the heart of the NFL playoffs, I'm proud to say I am a Packer fan, thru and thru. Admittedly, there was a (brief) period in my early childhood where I was captivated by the silver and blue of the Dallas Cowboys and preferred a pass from Danny White to Drew Pearson or Tony Hill rather than the less than "chic" green and gold uniforms and a less than stellar record of the Pack in the 80s (I just really dated myself). However, it was Don "Majik" Majkowski that lit the home team flame and my home team allegiances, and it has been one heck of a cheese head ride ever since.  

Over the last 20 years, as I have immersed myself in personal and professional development, I couldn't help but have a fascination with studying some of history's greatest leaders. Being a Packers fan, naturally, I was curious about the coach that achieved more success in less time than any other coach in NFL history. In nine seasons, Vince Lombardi won five NFL championships,...

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The "Success Mindset"

mindset success Jan 17, 2021

 Welcome to the launch of my new blog, “The Success Mindset”    

My name is Shawn Carlin, sales professional, husband, father of two beautiful daughters and two phenomenal step-sons.  For those of you familiar with me, beyond my 23 years in the financial services business, know that I have a deep-seeded interest in personal/professional development and the drivers of human potential.  

In my career as a sales executive, I have had the pleasure of conducting over 15,000 face-to-face meetings and seminars.  I have learned something from each and every one.  It was approximately meeting 1720, I started to become curious, maybe even obsessed,  about the specific elements of success.  I started seeing subtle distinctions the more I observed and developed a deeper curiosity.  

Why does one person experience wild success and happiness with seemingly little effort while the other seems to be in continual...

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